by Ika Devita

Created on: October 03, 2008   Last Updated: April 03, 2011

Me and Mr. Sexy

I used to greet everyone on my messenger list everyday. I cheered them up by saying words of encouragement to them. No matter who they were, as long as they were on my messenger list, I would greet them and cheer them. I did not expect their feedback because I did it from my heart. So I did it everyday.

One day, someone greeted me back by asking this question, "Hey, do you only greet me or do you also greet other person?" I answered, "I do it for all of my messenger friends," and we ended our conversation. I knew from one of the forums that he was such an arrogant person that anyone really hated him, but I did not care. I decided and committed that I would not judge anyone and I would never expect anything.

Our second greeting was when he asked for my phone number. I gave it! I still can not believe that I gave it to him. I did not know him. I never met him. Then he called me. He had a deep voice. From several conversations, I finally knew that he was a teacher. He is smart. He loves books and the library, just like me. He loves traveling, that is like me too. He loves to have discussions with others; that is so like me. He loves history, which I hate it!

Our conversation is going deeper and deeper, day by day. I started to pour out my joy and pain to him. He became my friend. I could always count on him even though he was not beside me. He gave his best advice for me and he cared for me. We live on different island but I still feel him near. Couple of moths later, he visited me. We spent a whole week and went to many interesting places in this island. We went to the places where I have never been before. It was fun! But that interesting time was not to last for long. He said he must go back to his island again. I was sad, but he had to work.

His next visit was to propose me. Then we are engaged. I went to his island and tried to adjust with his life. Things were really different. What we had on the telephone was like a dream. We argued a lot and we hurt each other. The conflict were getting bigger and bigger each month. I decided to think again about marriage. I told him that I am not ready for the marriage, considering the condition of our relationship.

We finally broke up. I went back to my hometown and stay there for good. Relationship is not about you and him. It is also about other people and your environment. The phone might get you both closed but it could not create the real environment. Sometimes, the reality is not the same as the fairy tale. When we decided to start a relationship from the phone, we should be wise to consider the risk and the effect for ourselves. Knowing the environment and the community of our friend would help us a lot to make the decision.

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