History offers many mystical stories about the female. May be as children we learn to love by the stories we hear. How can we not love the center character of our childhood tales? After all they are our mothers, daughters and best friends. Wisdom prevailing we men should keep in mind we would not existence without them. Their indispensability makes them mysterious, we lust for their attention, we ask them for permission to marry us and are drunk with their majesty. Their shapes attract us, their smell excite us and their leaving make us sorrowful. Yet we know so little about them. Often our angry comments are less than complimentary. It is say "we cant live with them and cant live without them".
We intuitively know that life would be dull and meaningless without women. Yet the quality of life's experiences is solely dependent on the quality of the communications between man and woman. LIKE IT OR NOT ...there is only two sexes we are it! There are no "alien sexed" beings for us to chose.I have listened to conversations among both males and females about "men" and "women" that implied such a view. On occasion I get the idea that each group possess a hidden hope to fulfill. They each act as if they wished there were a third sexual group from which to select.
It is almost as if they harbor a desire for another sexual group to satisfy their carnal desires as a hope to achieve happiness. This group of course would have to be outside of the gay community; an independent sexual category that possess an "organic physicality" that are "missing" in men and women. What those organs would be be, I don't know and I am sure I would not like to witness them.
I have sat through conversations, listening to the statements, "the trouble with men is" and "the trouble with women is" etc. Well, who else could there be to have trouble with? Of course, women are a problem to understand! Of course, men are a problem to understand! Consider this idea, when a female experiences natural bleeding every month, this is mark of "life giving". When a male experiences bleeding not only is it "unnatural" but is a sign of pain, injury and possibly of death! Talk about a different point of view. Note that both views are natural for the respect genders.
It is this "problem causing pair" (male and female) that gives life to each of us, both figuratively and literally. No births can take place without them. If either of them totally vanished we would have not life, or fun, no challenges and no children; thus no you and me!I would suggest that the "child bearing ability" of women contributes greatly to the perceptions of we what we call life. Men can never have a clue of how significant the dynamics of child birth contributes to and influencing how women feel. This experience affects the emotional lens through which women see the world.
The cycle of preparation for birth for women begins to set the stage for how women will feel about the part they play. Whether the female chooses to give birth or not the "cycle" of birthing once pregnant impacts how she will emotionally response to her environment and that of her children. Men have no such biological experience that affects his reasoning as child birth does for women. Now we might say, yes there is, his sex drive! Well men's drive for sexual satisfaction is no match for the sexual drive of women. Women are capable of multi-sexual partnerships in a single hour few men can match that kind of sexual intensity.
Women live comfortably in the mixture of emotionality that would drive a male up a tree. Men are not comfortable with the many emotions that women find great pleasure. It is this difference that contributes to the confusion between the sexes. Men choose to restrict his emotions for a wide variety of reasons. Some of the reasons have to do with survival, some with protection, some because he is clueless as to how his mate can cry about things he sees as "unimportant".
Too often however, when he decides or can't see the "importance" of a situation he is witnessing it is because he sees emotions as unreliable. When this happens he is troubled and he is accurately assessing that he does "not understand women". When this occurs he truly can't understand why, she is crying! But her emotional arena is so much wider than ours. She needs a large field of emotions to cope with the dry, practical, masculinity controlled environment created by we, men!
As males and females, we both are stupid to some aspect of the others reality and thus interpretation of how to cope with life. We as children therefore need both of our parents to learn and gain the life management skills needed to have a better balanced understanding of what life may require!
Women appear to find comfort in emotions that men would find dangerous! The gap of emotional response between of the two is not that one is better or more stable. It is that both are alive and each look through the lens of emotionality that performs appropriately for the bio-programming that nature has created in the species. Emotions can be a gift or a liability, it is how we manage them that matters. Seemingly the two sexes simply handle their "human emotions" differently.But think of it, "if we got completely rid of eithers emotional sensitivity we all would be a lot dumber than we are.
Now, that having been say, nothing is more important to a mother than her child, not her husband, not her home, not her bank account, nothing. She , as a mother, loves;deeply in a way that we men can never do. This highly valued experience for those women who chose to become mother is more important to hold on to than the threat of anything in life. There is nothing in a male's life that takes on such a magnitude of value. We, men, can leave our families and go to war, we can leave our child behind with other people and we can leave our families for a wide range of irrational reasons. Many of the reasons will never make sense to anyone that thinks rationally.
Women on the other hand "feels" with a quality of ethos that we males are left imagining in a void of mystery. Mothers have been known to abandon their children out of love. Fathers have abandoned their children often time for reasons other than love. Thus mothers have a "sense" of attachment to their children before, during and after birth; but fathers have no such sense and no such experience. In fact men have a sense of detachment. Fathers welcome the "leaving" of their children from home. Mothers regret the "leaving" of their children from home. To her , she is losing a part of her body, her person and perhaps even her being!
Now none of this is scientific or absolute for either males or females. It is only to say, that as people we are either male or female. And as such not only are we influenced by life experiences but also by the world we see as individuals because of gender. Biology has its place as to why we men have a hard time understanding his greatest asset and most challenging partners, women! As males and females we see life experiences remarkably different. Biology is the" hook and I might add a hook we should all welcome. And as we master our skills to understand each other many of the challenges we have that now prevent understanding will disappear and become our greatest asset.