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How to survive the dating game:

Does anyone really know the rules for dating in the 21st century? Are they any different than in ages past? Remaining single throughout our 20s and 30s is commonplace these days with many people deciding to pursue careers and life in the fast lane before settling down with The One. So, is there an unwritten code that all these singletons are privy to, or is it more of a free-for-all where no one really knows what is expected of them? Whatever the case, whether you are looking for Mr or Miss Right or just out for a bit of fun, here are some do's and don'ts to help you get fresh on the dating scene this spring.

Don't

* Give one-word answers If your date asks you a question, elaborate! They are not trying to dig up dirt on you under duress; they are interested to learn more about you. Keep the conversation flowing by giving full answers and by asking questions in return.

* Talk about yourself all night make sure you take the time to find out about the person you have chosen to spend this date with, rather than just filling them in on the intricacies of your own life. Talking about yourself, especially when un-asked, can come across as self centred, this may put your date off seeing you for a second time.

* Talk about ex-relationships - most importantly if it is a very recent one and you are still hankering after your ex! If you are ready to move on then leave your past relationships in the past and talk about things you have in common with the new person in you life rather than what went wrong with the old one!

* Answer the phone it can be very distracting for a person who is trying to spend time with you if you are constantly fielding phone calls, so put your phone on silent or, even better, switch it off. If it is important they'll call back.

* Be late leaving your date waiting alone for too long can make a very bad first impression so, if you are unavoidably late, let them know. Better to be on time though as it is difficult to come back from a bad first impression.

* Hit on others while on the date yes you are out to find Mr or Miss right, but hitting on the hot waiter as he walks past your table is not going to improve your chances. Focus on the date you are on, you can always get that other number another time.

Do

* Make a plan there is nothing worse than finding yourself on a date with no idea what the two of you might enjoy, so make sure, when you make the date, that you plan what to do and then do it!

* Ask questions and seem interested

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