by Lisa Davies

Created on: September 30, 2008

Ok, so we all know that marriage it's self on has about a 52% of out lasting the "D". And now we find out that a second marriage only has about a 20% chance of actually making it work, or outrunning the lawyers and courtrooms. Pretty daunting isn't it.

The reason that the whole "institution of marriage" has a great chance of failure is we all go into it with preconceived notions of how the union should play out in our minds, and most the time we have done this without even consulting our "other half".

And when the honeymoon is over and it's time to go back to the, what I like to call - real world, we are sadly let down, and the whole time this was inevitable or could have been avoided.

When it starts pouring rain outside, it's so easy for us to run back into the old familiar shelter, rather than working together as a team and building a new shelter for the two of you. Isn't that part of the marriage union - " in good and bad, for richer or poor, in sickness and health."

It's just entirely too easy to throw in the towel and run to the lawyer and state you want a divorce based on irreconcilable differences. What does that mean anyway? To me, it appears to mean that something can't be repaired or fixed - right?

Who says it can't be fixed - the two that are getting a divorce right? Have they tried to reconcile? If so, what actions did they take in doing so? Or did they just decide they don't love one another no longer?

This is very disheartening to me, especially when their bond and the vows they made when getting married - were made in front of God himself. God that we lean on, cry to, pray to every single time there is a crisis, rather it be a national crisis, or a personal crisis.

Marriage is taken to lightly these days, and it seems to be only worsening through the generations. Are our values, morals, principals being altered with time?

No matter what the statistics are or the reasons one decides on divorce, rather than trying to work through it all and remembering why they fell in love to begin with - I still believe in love, being in-love and the union of marriage. It's the greatest commitment you can make to a single person in his or her life. And it can also bring you some of the greatest joy and love in ones life; we were put on this earth to love and to be loved, I just think we need to put a little more value on the institution of marriage and the people we love in our lives.

With our priorities in line, and remembering the love that brought the two together in the first place, it will take work, but it can be done, and great things will come from the outcome.

Remember nothing worth having ever comes easy - there's work involved, but the end result is amazing.

Have a little faith, love the other as you would want to be loved, respect the other as you would want for yourself, and all else should fall into place fairly easy. Keep your eyes open for the rocks or bumps in the road, those will always pop up now and then, but remember, it's no hill for a climber...

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