by Shilo Dawn Goodson

Created on: September 29, 2008

When I was a little kid, I always assumed I'd get married early. By early, I mean by about 21 at the oldest. It didn't seem too wild of an idea. Even up until my senior year of college I assumed I'd at least be engaged when I graduated from college. i even had the day planned if I should make it that far unmarried. It was a Friday about three weeks after college graduation. Yet, here I sit at about two months short of 25, over two years out of college, and I am definitely single with no marriage prospects anywhere in the near future. This isn't exactly the way I imagined my life going.

A little over three years ago, one of my closest friends got married. She wasn't my first friend to get married, but it hit me harder than it had when some of my other friends got married, because this girl and I had been really close for years. I almost felt like she was betraying me. As juniors in high school, we had said we would marry twins together. Not only did her husband not have a twin brother, he didn't even have a brother. Yes, I realize we were joking when we decided to marry twins, but I still felt like on a certain level that she was betraying me.

It was difficult to see her get married, because I felt like I was losing a friend. It wasn't long until we were really growing apart. Sure, we hadn't lived in the same state since I'd left for college three years before that, but we had talked on the phone at least a couple times a month and wrote each other letters or emailed each other quite frequently. For the first two years I was lucky if I was able to get a hold of her to talk on the phone twice a year or if I was able to get any sort of communication from her more than once every two or three months. Only recently have we started to really communicate again, and that's only on the Internet. It's not the same at all. We are definitely in different parts of our lives. She even has a son who will be two this December. After this friend got married, others followed. Now, over half of my closest high school and college friends are married.

One thing that I have noticed about marriage is that once someone gets married, they seem to have less time for there single friends, but somehow they have time for their married friends even if these married friends weren't even their friends before the marriage. People who I was once super close to and talked to on a daily basis for years practically eliminated themselves from my life once they got married. Now I almost feel like I

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