by Courtenay Summerson

Created on: September 29, 2008   Last Updated: October 23, 2009

I have always been a firm believer in equal opportunities and equal rights,I think that this should be an active part in all aspects of our life,As for reasons as to why husbands should help with the housework,there are many and in my own life experience I have been apart of both a partner who didnt and a partner who did,however the partner who did at first took quite alot of persuasion,fathers nowadays take a far more active approach in the upbringing of their children,and a vast majority of women are now taking up employment,trying to juggle housework,children and a job and all the other things that come with it,for some women it has become a necessity to work,I was one of these,I was working not only because I liked my job but to support my then partner and the four children we had between us,but also to support my partner whilst he set up his own business,and the only way of survival for us all was if I worked,I ended up working the six days out of seven,I tried to do as much of the housework as I could whilst working, taking children to school,it was exhausting,but increasingly more and more things were neglected,which would result in build up of stress and tension as at the time my then partner spent most of his time in the house than me,and for my own sanity the subject was broached that maybe he should help out around the house,after all Im just an ordinary human being im not an octopus,and unfortunately do not have the added advantage of having super powers.However the laundry still needs doing,places needed hoovered,dishes need doing,children need bathing,regardless of how many hours you spend in the day at work,and there never seems to be enough,you crawl to bed exhausted,which doesnt work well for your sex life or your mood,resulting in really uneccesary arguments not good for any relationship,when theres help there with all the little things one less load of laundry,or one less batch of dishes to do it may not seem much but it all helps and it betters the relationship between you both,but also the less time you spend trying to catch up on chores means it leaves you both more time with each other, which when you have children especially,is important and as a manner of speaking could either make or break any relationship. It may seem insignificant as to why a husband should do housework to most men,understandably so back in the day it was never heard of or spoken of,and it didnt co-incide with what then was termed as the traditional role of being a husband and a father,but society has changed and traditional roles of family members have changed,it does not reflect upon and it does not come down to what manhood or womanhood,because these terms and their meanings have also changed as years have came and gone and as society evolves,this is the modern era in which we all live.

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