by Cathy Miller

Created on: September 28, 2008

Sharing things is one of the most important aspects in any relationship. Whether the relationship is between family members, friends or spouses, you must be able to share with the other person or trouble will ensue. After all, no one wants to be the giver all the time while the other person is doing all the taking.

Sharing feelings. This is a must if you want your marriage to last. If you are upset or angry with your spouse for something they have done or said, you should try to calmly and openly discuss with him/her why you are feeling this way. Nine times out of ten, your spouse will not even have realized what they have done wrong until you point it out to them. If the situation is discussed without letting these problems fester, there is a better chance of your spouse listening and understanding what you have to say without feeling like they are being attacked.

Sharing the same beliefs and morals. If one person is an atheist and the other firmly believes in God, expect lots of arguing. As the old saying goes, "Two topics people should not discuss in an open forum is religion and politics". Many people can attest to that fact. The same thing goes for a married couple only double. If you have an argument with a friend over religion or politics, you can leave, thus avoiding saying something you wouldn't want to say. You live with your spouse. And while a spouse can leave as well, it is not a very good sign for your marriage.

If you think it's okay to fudge on your taxes or lie to your boss about why you didn't show up for work one day and your spouse is very rigid about their morals, they are not going to be happy with you. This may be a little problem but over time, can lead to your spouse not respecting you.

Sharing the same hopes and dreams. If one person loves children and wants a houseful of kids and the other doesn't, this is a major problem. No matter how much you love the person you are with, if you feel that person is trying to force children onto you or denying you the privilege of having them, the marriage will not survive.

Never enter into a marriage with someone, hoping that they will change their mind later on or that you can change it for them because this rarely happens. And if your spouse gives in and agrees to have children, even though they don't want them, this makes a terrible environment not only for yourself but for your children as well.

Raising children is a hard enough job without having one parent who is not willing to commit to and

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