by Annie Kaycora

Created on: September 27, 2008

I cannot attribute anything BUT fate to the matter of death, the exception being, taking your own life or making poor decisions that jeopardize survival. Even then, with choices such as suicide, subtance abuse, or even deadly stunts, what brings these choices about? Fate steers us in the directions and through the decisions and thought processes needed to execute what is meant to happen, period. So is it not fate that brought us to take that extra pill? Was it not fate at its finest, that led the man to murder? Granted, we can make 'choices' that lead us down a dark path of fatality, in many cases I believe it is simply fate.

This reminds me of the question, What came first, the chicken or the egg? And if women birth men and women, did man come first or woman? If woman, how did SHE get there? Many would bring the religion ship into this and answer that, but how about that chicken or the egg question?

What do you call it when a young 11 year old boy, who complains of headaches frequently, visits the doctor who then sloughs it off as 'probably too much candy', suddenly dies of brain cancer 2 weeks later on Christmas morning? If I were fighting on the side of 'Choice' I suppose an argument would be the 'choice' of the doctor saying it was just too much sugar, or perhaps, the 'choice' of the parents in not over reacting and getting extensive tests and brain scans done just to make sure. Sure, those were choices, but what do you call the force that was behind those choices? Ignorance? I would have to say it is that undefinable force that we intermittently believe in: FATE and destiny.

The old man that dies in his sleep after living a marvelous, well traveled life, chose to die in his sleep that very minute, that very second? How about, the stars were aligned, the time has come, and fate says let's go.

I call all of this fate, because years later, sometimes longer, in retrospect we see why it needed to happen; why we needed to lose that family member. Often you will find a pattern actually, you lose the family member, you feel it is unfair and don't understand why, it leads you to, say, a therapy class, where you meet someone who coincidentally is in the same business as you, a relationship is established, you go into business and we can go ON and ON with this sequence -make no mistake of it, I am not implying that the family member was lost so that a business partner could be found -I am just saying it is the work of fate at its finest. For goodness sake, if death were as simple and logical as mere choices, a lot more of us might be alive and a lot less sudden losses would occur.

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