by Kutie martin

Created on: September 26, 2008

Staying in a relationship longer than you should will only bring you down.
You start to convience yourself that you have nothing else outside of this relationship, that being with him/her is the only thing you have going. Alot of people tell their selves this to try to help ease the real thoughts in the back of there minds that they need to leave.

You can suffer majorly staying with someone longer than you know you should.

You will start to fill drained, emotionaly unfit, or that your not going to surive on your own, that you need this person. When in reality you can leave, you just need that push from a loved one, or close friend, plus your own instincts that now is time to get out of this relationship and move on.

Letting go will be hard, that's a known fact, but you are better off with a moment of pain, then staying with someone u really want to leave and feeling pain for a lifetime. You may miss out of real love, real happiness, or something that will change your life. All because you stayed too long in a dead end relationship.

The world is a scary place, and can be very hard to live in, but why add on more problems for yourself, or for your kids of you are a person with a family in a dead end relationship.
Get out as soon as you feel it in your heart that you should go, and that you've tried everything you could to fix the relationship. Once all has failed and you feel theres nothing more you can get out of this you should than and only than leave.

Listening to others sometimes clouds your decisions, so it's always best to have your own decision first than try to get help or second opinions. People may try to come to you and tell you to stay with him/her for all the wrong reasons, such as saying to you, stay because they have alot of money, stay because of the home, stay because in a few years it a get better, and so on. Your choice should be based on your heart. If your heart says it's a reason to stay, or that you can fix your relationship, or that you are in love than those are obvious reasons to work things out. Breaks may occur to help out the relationship, but no serious separations. Unless you feel it in your heart that you should let go, and move on.

A decision this big should be prayed upon, given deep thought, talked over with family or close friends, and looked at from both point of views. This way when it comes time to make that really big and hard choice you will know you made the right one, because you followed all the steps and did all that you could to get you mind straight for your decision.

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