by Daniella Antelo

Created on: September 24, 2008

Communicate, Communicate and Communicate. Trust is the biggest and strongest factor in any relationship, and when lost, it is the absolute hardest thing to regain, without a doubt. Talking about everything from the very beginning and keeping the lines of communication open creates a very strong bond from the get-go. Communication isn't just the 'talking' part, but is also, actions and body language, and it's huge in determining where the relationship is. With that said, determining whether or not your spouse is cheating on you or lying to you will be a little bit easier.

The thought of that is painful as hell, but first you have to ask yourself, why do I have the feeling that my partner is cheating on me? Because he or she is going out with their friends and you are at home? Because you did something to piss him or her off? Because you know that their friends are members of the opposite sex? Because you, yourself are a jealous person? If that is the case, then maybe we should sit down and think about why we any of these factors are even in question. Are they all a product of our own insecurities? Relationships are hard and communication is the most important in building and maintaining trust and loyalty in any partnership.

I understand being untrusting if your mate has cheated on you or other partners in the past, but that is where it has to be left...in the past! If you have had a partner cheat on you before and with a lot of consideration, have chosen to forgive them, you have to actually DO that! You may not have to FORGET it, but you have to forgive them and allow them to regain your trust again. Giving them shit, whenever they don't call you at exactly eleven PM on the dot and working up a sweat about it because you think they are out there, playing hooky with some 'floozy' or some 'powerhouse, quarter back-type', is not healthy and not fair to either one of you. What are you supposed to do about it anyway? Hire an investigator to follow them around to make sure they don't have another lapse of judgment? Put on a disguise and stalk them when they're out? NO! My god, you'd drive yourself crazy!

This is just me, but my personal belief on cheating is that it's unacceptable, disrespectful and is the most hurtful thing and the ULTIMATE trust breaker. It makes you question everything about everything. But I do believe in forgiveness in general. I may not be with that person anymore but I will, over time, forgive them. I have been lied to and been given false hopes

• 1
• 2
• Next Page >>