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When is the best time to get married? Will the Glass Slipper Ever Fit? Do opposites really attract? I believe there is some truth to this. At first the euphoria of a new relationship brings much elation and happiness, even in a relationship that is unpredictable as is with opposites. But after five years into the marriage will this now "old found love" still be alive and strong, and will these opposites still attract each other?

The first thing young people should know before getting married is that there is no such thing as Cinderella and Prince charming marriages. It just doesn't work like that. At first the slipper fits, but later, after trials and tribulations, the slipper becomes too small.
There are no exceptions to this rule. It is very crucial that couples develop and grow together through the daily grind of work, career, children, circumstances, and marital issues that can and will affect marriage tremendously.

Couples should believe in the same issues and concerns that become readily apparent in life. They need to deeply and thoroughly discuss the subjects of career, family, religion, etc, before saying those "I do's". You're ready for marriage when you are really ready to be a wife or husband to someone.

For younger couples who have never been married before, I really want to stress how important it is to communicate how you both feel about certain topics of importance and the roles each of you will assume in the marriage. Lets take a look at just a few compatibility issues that might affect couples during marriage.

1) Your future husband thinks he would like to hunt for the sport of it, and is now an avid hunter and happy camper in the woods, but you have become involved in the conservation of animals, will you know how to handle this incompatibility issue every time it comes up in your marriage? Or would you want to? Unless you can come to an agreement of some sort about this major difference in personalities, then I don't think you should get married.

2) Your future husband wants three or four children, but you're not sure about even having one child! Are you willing to compromise your own wants and needs and give in to your husband's desires? If not, I would advise you to hold off on getting married.

3) Your future wife has taken the position that she wants to have a career and maybe adopt a child later. You want her to stay home with your children. Is this going to work? No, it is not, and again, this can become a major problem in the home if it

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