by Brenda Rivers

Created on: September 21, 2008

lack of support wow! what an eye opener when you think your family of all people in this world wouldnt deny you support! when my husband and i relocated to az from upstate ny 4 years ago (giving up everything selling our home)to be closer since we were needed and then experiencing family hostilities in the yrs to pursue we were upset to say the least and angry!we saw the writing on the wall when my husband came out 3 times for job interviews and saw how my elderly mother was and the fact she didn t like my father having his son in law close

by and doing things with him when he visited. she felt threatened and due to her experience with my 2 sisters here she became bitter and cynical towards her children which inc us unfortunately! we should have gone elsewhere but we thought we were doing right thing.despite many events that happen we continued to help out and my younger sister wasnt forthcoming re things here also she lied regarding issues which didnt help us in the long run. despite this my husband helped her on her property and saved her alot of money because he cared and he put his personal feelings aside . she has helped a few times but not to the extent of what we
have done andwhen she needed help moving i was right there for her. she never lifted a finger to help me move when we bought a house down the st from her and never offered any help again when we had to move. she was mad since it meant she would be the only one close to parents and the pressure was on her solo.many issues stem from this and now my elderly mother tells me she misses us when we lived close by! my husband is fed up with the family and all the lies and rhetoric . we miss the area we had bought our home bu not the aggravation. my 2 sisters have to get more involved and always relied on us! family support is not there never will be i have a brother and another sister far removed from the issues and they likeit that way. we are the first ones they call when something is wrong or parents need something! sad but true! we grew up close to each other but as we grew apart it fell apart. we still care about each other but my family very judgemental and jealous as is my husbands family! i pray every nite things will change and wish them all happiness and peace!we have alot to be thankful for.we all could learn from katrina and the gulf coast disasters and again in texas. as families we take alot for granted today and never miss it till its gone! now my 2 sisters and parents regret some things

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