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"Like all other women, you will have to get married when you grow up", saying my teacher as usual. But i always disagree with him. I myself will not marry anyone when i grow up because i know being single with me is much more wonderful.
In my country, it is now still widespreadly believed that women are only happy when she acts as a wife and a mother in her family. Yes! Many women are really very happy with their maritual lives. But there are also many others whose lives have been totally changed after their marriages.

They have to give up their jobs to live at home to look after the children and do the housework. They are turned from social workers into home workers whose values are often taken for granted. As they do the housework, they cannot earn money to support for the family. The result of their work is not visible, not measured directly by money. And the husbands tend to look down on them, feeling that the wives are not important as much as themselves.
As married women have to stay at home, they have less chance to associate with the community. It sometimes leads them to feel lonely, old-fashioned, and not dynamic. Each time they want to go out with friends for a party, it may be a hard process of arranging all the work at home and persuading their husbands.
As the time flies, women grow old much faster than men. And many women find it so difficult to face this fact. They are sad because they look older, less attractive. And in comparison with their husbands, they feel less confident. They start to worry that their husbands won't love them as before. This thought haunts their minds day and night, makes them feel really depressed.
And argument is a big problem with married women. When they are still single, they live alone, no argument. If they live with parents, after arguments, things soon will be alright. But it's not alright at all after an argument with the husbands. Anger, tirednessand silence. And women always fear the silence most. The cold war in family always affect most on the women because they are born more emotionally fragile than men. As the husbands have totally forgotten about the quarrel, the wives still remember clearly what had happened, feeling so sad and crying alone.
These are some very normal things i can imagine about the future of a woman after marriage. I cannot think more because i am still too young. But just with these facts, i think i had better stay single and enjoy the life.

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