by Kelli Christopher

Created on: January 13, 2007   Last Updated: May 09, 2007

Wedding stress is usually created when couples over-extend their budget or meet the demands of family instead of doing what they wish. No matter how carefully you plan, there will always be some stress, however, there are many things that can be avoided to help you achieve a stress free event.

The first thing to remember it to stay true to what you and your future spouse want. Get married where you want and invite the people who are important to you. If you and your fiance are paying for the wedding, that is an even bigger reason to put your foot down on location, guest list, menu and wedding party. Too many times, the bride and groom worry about the needs of their parents and other family and neglect their own wants and needs. There needs to be a balance as well as open communication between the bride and groom and their families.

Way to often, couples over extend their finances by having a bigger wedding than what they can afford. It is no secret that financial problems cause worry and stress. Remember, even if you and your future spouse aren't footing the bill, the people you love are, and you should respect their financial requests.

There are many appointments that will be made: minister, DJ, photographer, videographer, caterer. The time will have to be made to meet with each of these groups, once or more, before the wedding. Do not add extra stress to you, or those close to you, by having more than one or two showers. I have friends that have had a bridal shower with their friends, one with their families, a bride/groom shower, a personal shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties. Not only does that make more work for you right before the wedding, but it causes stress to those close to you. They then have to provide multiple gifts and set aside multiple dates before the actual date of your wedding. Relieve the stress for everyone and keep the showers to a minimum.

The most important thing is to enjoy the planning of your wedding. Add fun or special touches that will make it memorable for you and your spouse-to-be. Make your family feel special and included in your own way and take the time to remember your wedding day. Make the most of it. Things may go wrong, but as long as you walk down the aisle and say "I do", nothing else really matters.

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