by Mary Tyrer

Created on: September 19, 2008

Many people might tell you that a marriage cannot continue if a couple is not in love. However, many marriages do survive, some even happily. Some stay married, and are miserable for the choice they made to stay together. Often staying married for "the kid's sake," which is the worst thing parents can do for their children.

While in the American and other societies, people are married because they are in love. On the other hand, many countries and even some people of certain religions arrange marriages that survive, and even thrive. People in Western societies have a hard time understanding the idea of arranged marriages, and they are becoming less prevalent.

Many are joined in marriage for wealth or power. This being the case the marriages are expected to survive by all in the families, and the society they live. Therefore, these marriages survive, but we have no idea if they survive with or without love. In arranged marriages the couples may not even know one another before they are married and so they have no way of being in love, yet there is no way to know if they eventually fall in love with one another or the marriage stay's an arrangement.

In the Western societies, people marry for love first, and intend to stay married for life. Staying in love with one person throughout life is becoming rarer than in years past. Think about it, people live almost twice as long today as they did in the 18th or 19th century. Only about thirty years ago getting a divorce was frowned upon. The couples who married back then stayed together without love because of the stigma attached to divorce. Many stayed together for religious beliefs, while others for the good of the family. Were they in love, probably not, were they happy, probably not? However, they stayed together some successfully, others not so much.

Today people easily decide married life is too hard, to restricting and they choose to divorce without working on the relationship. If they would only try to work on some of the problems in the marriage, they may well find happiness with the person they married for what was meant to be for life. So is it possible to stay in a loveless marriage? Yes. Should you, maybe at least try to fulfill the promise that was made. Then and only then divorce, you can stay in a loveless miserable marriage, but life is too short you might as well do the best you can to be happy.

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