by Mary Tyrer

Created on: September 18, 2008

Sadly, marriages crumble. That is just the way a fact. In the past, people stayed married because of the stigma attached to divorce, or for the children. To make a marriage work people have to want to be together for themselves, not for the sake of anyone else, not even the children. Should couples stay married because the have children. Absolutely not!

Children today are well versed in divorce at an early age. They have friends whose parents are divorced, and normally other family members as well. They see it on TV and in movies divorce is so common in our society having two biological parents in the home is almost rarer than having a single parent home, blended families or step children and step parents.

Parents who believe they are able to continue to live in a loveless marriage for the sake of their children and maintain a normal life are delusional. Point, people who do not want to be together as a couple and feel forced into an inescapable situation get on each others nerves, argue and fight a lot. Tempers are less likely kept in check. Therefore, children will hear their parents constant bickering and fighting.

Children are sensitive to mood in the home, and between the parents fighting, not speaking to one another and often-other poor behavior will do more damage to a child's emotional health than if the child were to have divorced parents and two separate homes where they knew the would find peace and love without the emotional stress at all times.

When a child is brought up with parents who stay married for their sake, the child grows up always knowing something is not right between his or her parents. However, since the dysfunctional relationship they grow up with is all they know. When they are old enough to date and get married, they will most likely display the same dysfunctions they learned from the parents who did not want to be together and stayed together for their children's well-being. Yet, in reality, the parents were teaching poor life lessons in how to deal with his or her mate.

The best parents can teach their child is they are not able to live together. However, that in no means lessons the love they have for their child. They as parents are not happy together and being apart makes them happy, and no matter what both parents will be there for him or her no matter what life offers, and be sure to let their child know they are not the cause of the divorce.

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