by Seher Chowdhry

Created on: September 18, 2008

I think these days people are more interested in living together rather than getting married, so to me if I heard someone was actually interested in getting married, then that would sure mean something. Although I don't agree an engagement ring is really all that necessary to seal the deal. I think we're too spoiled by material things to the point that we're getting somewhat dependent on it. I mean, if God forbid you break it off, the girl is going to end up keeping the ring anyway, (unless she really doesn't want it), but if she does the ring will end up being compensation for all the trouble. I think that's mostly what people see in an engagement ring. Sure, there is the romance and the wanting to show off to your friends how sweet your guy is, I mean who wouldn't want an engagement ring, right? But there shouldn't be so much expectation on getting one. Is the ring going to decide whether you're fit to be together or something? Does it have special powers and can somehow chase away bad luck. Or is it all about superstition?

Let me tell you something, there's nothing wrong with a simple proposal. I think it's more than enough that the guy finally has enough nerve to even make the decision to commit, because we all know how guys have commitment issues these days. They go through weeks, maybe months of rehearsing, preparing, thinking on how to ask their beloved to be a part of their life for good, and that's after the weeks and months of deciding if he even wants to make that step, and then on top of that they have to buy an expensive ring. And what happens when they don't? People comment and assume things just to create rumors because it comes off as so strange to them as to why there was no ring.

Even though it is nice to get one, and it does add to the romance, but I hardly think it's necessary. It's just become a customary thing in society. What should seal the deal is the mutual agreement of two hearts. If for argument's sake an engagement isn't an engagement without the ring then does that mean that someone who is poor isn't allowed to propose because they can't afford a ring? I wonder how people got engaged in the old days, especially during those times when so few could afford jewelry. So let's not make it harder than it already is for the guys. Of course if they wanted to give us a ring who are we to complain, right? So, is it an engagement without the ring? Of course it is!

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