by Ann Palmieri

Created on: September 18, 2008

Your husband really loves you if you feel loved. He never berates you in front of friends. He would never, ever hit you! He shows his love by the things he does and says when you are alone or with friends. He would never embarrass you by looking lustfully at another woman when you are with him. He would not be mean to you on purpose.

Love is a choice one makes when the passion is a sweet memory that you both share. It is easy to show "passion" in bed, but that is not necessarily "love." It is the way he calls you "lover." When people look your way they know that you are in love because of the way you both look at each other. It's the "touch" he gives you for no reason when he crosses the room. Since love itself is not a concrete word (something you can touch), it is just as "fuzzy" to explain to others, especially if they have never experienced it.

There are some concrete ways to know your man really, really loves you; here are just the ones that I have experienced:

1. You never have to tell him to take out the trash. It is already at the curb.
2. His kiss tastes "minty" every day because he brushes early just so he can give you a sweet kiss.
3. He puts on cologne and stays home all day.
4. He washes the dishes when you have had a bad day, and sometimes makes dinner!
5. He gets his own drink and asks if you want one.
6. He surprises you with something you love to eat, fixes it for you, and then puts everything away, and cleans up.
7. He tells his friends you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
8. He tells your friends that you are the best thing that ever happened to him.
9. He says "yes" when he means "no" just because he wants to be with you.
10. He wakes you up to tell you he's home or he's leaving.
11. You both feel in love.
12. Hugs mean so much to both of you. Kisses, much more!
13. Your husband would do the laundry, make the beds, do the grocery shopping, put away the food, and vacuum if you needed him to do it all.

In conclusion, if you do not feel loved, then you'd better have a talk with the hubby. Something is wrong. Women need to tell their husbands what they need to feel loved. If they really love you, they will try to please you, keep you, and adore you. Nothing will be too difficult for them. They will respect you and your needs. If you are not getting this kind of love, ask for it. Remember, you need to love him just as much. Even when you are old and gray, have sagging skin, and can't remember yesterday's lunch, he will love you just as much or even more. That's love.

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