by Alias

Created on: September 17, 2008   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

I was quick to point the finger at others and tell them what they weren't doing right in their relationship. I had the picture perfect life and the picture perfect husband. We didn't have communication problems, money problems, or intimacy problems. I was married to my best friend and there wasn't a problem in sight. I was living the fairy tale life I had always dreamed of and no one could tell me any different. In fact, most didn't even try. They too saw how "lucky" I was and many tried to mimic our lives and our situation as a couple. We were "the perfect couple".

Well, life happens and it comes at you pretty fast sometimes; allowing the small menial things to slip right past you. You know, the occasional "I love you", the dates, the touching, the laughter, the intimate connection, and the quality time you once shared. Its not an all of the sudden dilemma, but when you wake up one day in your busy, stressful life, it hits you like a ton of bricks. The cleave you once had with this roommate, with benefits, are gone and you don't know how to get it back. Truth of the matter, even if you did, you know its going to take a lot of work and are you really ready to make that commitment while your trying to juggle the rest of your hectic life? Will he want to work at this too? Don't you just wish it could somehow work itself out? Don't you wish that at some point the two of you would just meet back up, when it was more convenient for the two of you, and then you would sit down and get back to the happy times? Especially when there are kids involved. Who has time to sit around in the evenings and discuss every feeling or thought that the other "provoked" you to think or feel? Even if I did have the time, mentally I am drained and thats the last thing on my mind. After all, things aren't that bad are they? Other people have it much worse. We don't hate one another, we just fight about stupid things. Wrong! Your in the first stages of failure. I've been in enough dead end situations to know that this is where it all starts. It doesn't have to be on the verge of divorce court to require action.

Now is your chance for relationship maintenance. If you take the time now to do a little bit of a overhaul on your marriage, you'll be able to avoid disaster in the end. You may not "feel" like sitting around discussing your feelings, but I can only speak for myself when I say that I'd much rather sit around discussing feelings than discussing who gets the house and who gets the

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