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habit to go to your kit and cut, that if you have the time to think while searching for something the desire may pass.

You should identify the triggers that cause the urge to cut. The very moment you have the desire to cut stop and think about what has just happened. What was it that made you go to that place? Was it a feeling that caused the urge? Was it an action that you or someone else had taken? Once you identify it you can try and eliminate this trigger from your life until it no longer causes you to feel that cutting is the necessary outlet.

Distractions are also a great way to stop cutting in the early stages. You will still want to feel that pain early on, so hurt yourself in a less harmful way. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap yourself with it when you feel like cutting. Or hold an ice cube to your skin for a minute or two. These things will cause pain but are less harmful in the long run. You can also draw on your skin with a red pen if you wish, to simulate blood. Other distractions can be helpful in expressing your emotions as well. Draw, paint, listen to music, write a poem, go for a run, or take the dog for a walk.

Try and relax when you feel the urge to cut. If you're like me then you feel anxious and stressed right before you cut yourself. Try taking a deep breath and just tell yourself that you are not going to cut because you are strong and will stay safe. Close your eyes and just breathe for a few minutes. If that still fails, never underestimate the power of screaming. Stand in the middle of the room (provided that the neighbors will not end up calling the police) and scream at the top of your lungs. Shout out loud what is causing you to want to cut, or what is bothering you.

It is also important to love yourself. I realize this can be the hardest part, feeling worthless and small is a large part of cutting. I know you don't feel like you are worth it, that you do not deserve anyone's help or attention. But you do, and you can live a safer and happier life if you choose to. Think about it this way, if you love someone else you would do anything to avoid hurting them. You deserve the same consideration from yourself. If you need it, get professional therapy or advice from a religious leader. Love yourself enough to not harm yourself anymore. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Stay strong, stay safe, and you can have a future with no new scars.

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