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I used to think that there was only one soul mate out there for each one of us. This also coincided with the Christian belief instilled by my parents that once you found him that was the person you married and stayed with for the rest of your life.

A lot has changed since then in my belief about soul mates, and in general. Through life experiences, studies, and talking to other people I have come to several conclusions in regards to soul mates.

Most importantly, I think that many people confuse the term soul mate with a twin soul. The twin soul as far as I believe is the yang to our ying, the female polarity that complements the male and vice versa. In this context, male and female does not mean the definition of outside genitalia, it's meant in a spiritual sense.

Also, once you find that one it does not necessarily mean you will fall in love and get married. I came to this conclusion because I believe I met my twin flame, but he was already happily married. While we knew each other immediately and what we were to each other, we parted ways to protect his marriage and family.

So, if that is the case, is there hope to get this magic feeling again and finding a soul mate? Can any feeling even equal the pull and connection you have with that missing half you find? I choose to believe it can be so. I believe this, as there would not be much to look forward to if I didn't.

I arrive at this conclusion by the experiences I have read and heard about. According to some literature, our souls belong to soul pods made up of about one thousand souls or so. Imagine that! This would mean that we don't have just the one chance, but many.

Those that practice and preach morality would probably disagree. However, keep in mind that finding a soul mate does not equal promiscuity. To me it means being drawn to that person, the interest you seem to have in him without knowing why.

I also think that soul mates choose identical paths in lives, even though they could be growing up as far away as on another continent. Have you ever met someone and found amazing similarities? For example, her or she chooses the same type of relationships, works in related professions, likes the same colors, wears a similar hairstyle, has the same likes and dislikes, has suffered the same illnesses, etc.

How does this apply to relationships? I think that, contrary to what society teaches us currently, that it is okay to feel attractions for many people. However, once you decide to be in a relationship with a person you feel to be a soul mate, you should not focus on finding another one. On the other hand, if a relationship ends with one of those soul mates, be thankful for the time you had together and see and appreciate the opportunity to find another one.

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