by Kundhavi Devi Anand

Created on: September 16, 2008

Yelling can help us when we use it at the right time and not always .When a child does a mistake first we have to correct it by a polite talk and when he repeats it we yell ,so the child understands that we will not always take its nonsense. We should try to avoid yelling each and every time as then that will not have effect on anyone and people will feel we are short tempered and so even if we yell they will just ignore us and at times we have to feel embarrased when even after yelling we cant get them to behave.So yelling helps us when we use it as our last weapon and not immediatley and make the child realise that once we are yelling then it has done something wrong which has made us yell and so it have to behave. similarly we have to control ourselves from yelling in the public which will hurt the child, so when the child is alone yell to show the child that his behaviour has not been correct and he has to learn to be diciplined and after yelling explain to the child why you had to yell and how its behaviour has hurt you and how you expect the child to behave and this way not only does the child learn but also comes to know that we yell only when we are hurt and it is the last step we take to correct it and when we yell when the child is alone it will know that parents are hurt and are good enough by not yelling in the public and hurting it back. this can be done when we tell them that i could have yelled at you in front of others but i did not do that as i felt my child should not feel embarassed in public ,so you also have to learn to be discilined and correct yourself and tell the child that as this is the first time i did not yell in front of others or your friends but if u continue again i will not bother who is there and i will yell in public ,so the child for sure will now know that we will surely yell in public next time if he mis behaves and will surely corrrect himself.Even though yelling is not a right thing to do sometimes it is the only thing which helps us to show our anger and our way of correcting the child ,so we have to use this as our last weapon and not always as we know how hurting it is when someone yells at us.WE have to control our actions and watch out for the words we use when we are yelling because the words we use can hurt the childs mentality ,so we have to just show our anger but never hurt the child and after yelling immediatley dont go and pamper your child but be silent so that the child will realise his mistake.When we show our affection immediatley the child will not learn to correct himself .

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