by Samantha Brown

Created on: September 16, 2008

Let's factor in age, family up bringing and also past relationships.
Once you have reach a point in your life,then no instructions needed. If you or the person involved in the relationship, has to controll the individual. Then something is wrong with the whole relationship. It says a lot, that particular individual has issues with themselves. It's no questions or reasoning! If there was room for improvement,then it wouldn't be a controlling issue in the first place. As an adult,knowing what you want for yourself is the key. When entering a relationship,open your eyes.

Looking for validation or acceptance starts with yourself.

Sometimes the other person in the relationship, do not feel anything is wrong. Not cool at all, your'e afraid of being alone. Controll in a relationship is a sign of something deeper than what's being disclose. The individual has to decide if that's something he or she is willing to subject themselves too. Controlling issues in the relationship affects the entire family. If children are apart of the equation, think about them and not " whooo.... I haven't felt this way in along time". Decisions made in haste can make painful memories. Controll freaks love the, make you feel it's your fault syndrome. Because you already feeling the need for acceptance, you fall prey.

Find yourself first, then take one day at a time. If the lover or partner has an excuse in the begining and I'm sorry it's something I can't help. Run like you know what, don't look back and forget stopping at go.
Leave the 200.00 dollars,and say no thanks. It maybe 2,000.00 before it's over with. Please! Please! Please! Do not allow those family and friends to say it the way things are, no it's not. You are beautiful in your on right. If your'e small, tall, medium, average and including plus size even disabled. Beautiful we all, and entitled to be treated with the up most respect we deserve. Because what we allow in the relationship, does impact our children lives. Yes everybody needs love, but is it good or bad.

Identify with what real love and understanding is to a relationship.Mental and emotional abuse, is just as worst as physical. Now if the relationship has some value and worth saving, I encourage you to find resolution. Talk to a clergy, seek counseling including couples therapy. Most of all confront the issues earlier on. Do not let it escalate to something more horriffic, and dehumanizing. Not dealing with it or waiting for the right time,and don't want to hurt one's feeling. Not good, you have feelings too.
Is every relationship perfect, no not at all. Open lines of communication has to include both individuals.

Searching for the perfect one, let's be real. No one on this earth is perfect. Remember the saying "Misery Loves Company" then don't keep it company. Move on! Life is too short, "Live!Love and Learn".

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