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There are a lot of bad habits that can ruin a marriage. Some of the bad habits we have we may not even be aware, because we've done them for so long, they've become routine.

Examples of bad habits that can ruin a marriage are nagging, whinning, not trusting your mate, not cooperating and working together as a team, losing interest in your marriage, and taking each other for granted, are a few that come to mind.

Compare the neccessities that your body needs to be well and thrive, to your marriage. If you don't eat properly and get the exercise that's needed to keep your body healthy, you don't feel well and become unable to function at your normal level.
The same thing can happen to a marriage if it's not nourished properly. Bad habits can overtake
it and before you know it, it starts to break down and fall apart.

Bad habits can become very routine. Your spouse comes home, and the minute he gets in the door, the nagging starts. He's late, he should have been home earlier. We don't bother to ask why he's late, we just start in with the nagging. Eventually he doesn't even want to come home anymore, because of the the nagging and whinning that he knows will be greeting him.

It's so easy to take each other for granted. The spouse comes home and automatically expects dinner to be ready. He grabs the remote and his favorite beverage and heads to the den to watch television. He doesn't bother to offer to help, or ask how your day went. He just expects everything to be ready and waiting when he gets their.

He spends his weekends golfing, fishing, and watching football, and she goes out with her friends. Before long it seems like you don't have anything in common, and communication starts to crumble.
We are two seperate individuals and surely have our own interests and hobbies. There's nothing wrong with that. We do need to do things as a couple, or as a family, or before long there's no reason to be together. We need to have some dates, just like before we were married, to keep the interest and spark going in our marriage.

We need to work together as a team with rearing the children, if we have them, finances, and other major issues that are such an important part of the marriage. If we fail to do this,
we end up on seperate tracks, and before we know it things start to fall apart, and then we ask why. A majority of marriages fall apart because of financial issues. If we work together on this, we will both know where we stand. The economy is in very bad shape right now, and even working together can not guarantee we won't have financial problems, but at least we will be aware of them as a couple and try to work it out together.

In order to have a successful, happy marriage, we have to recognize our bad habits, and try to overcome them, so our happy ever after vows, will be just that.

There are many other issues that can ruin a marriage, and professional help may be needed to solve those problems. I have just touched on a few minor issues that could be solved by two people working together as a couple.

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