by Laurie Pielak

Created on: September 13, 2008

My parents have been married for 53 years, and I have never ever heard either one of them say I won't allow you to do that. The word doesn't exist. They discuss, weigh pro's and con's and go from there. I to, in my marriage, do not use the word allow. If my husband wishes to watch porn, that's his choice. It doesn't mean our marriage is having problems. There are times when he may want me to watch with him. What is wrong with that. Why are so many women hung up or so insecure in themselves, that they think if a man want's to watch porn, then they are cheating or there's something wrong with the marriage. Perhaps there is, and well Ladies, maybe it's a warning? We are adults, and the word allow just doesn't sit well with me. Mind you neither does the word "obey", which was why it wasn't in our wedding vows. We both discussed and agreed it had no place in any relationship, especially marriage. Communication ladies. Tis a wonderful thing. Have you tried sitting with you husband whilst watching porn? Give it a go, and then open up the lines of communication. Discuss it, be open to it. Maybe ask why they want to watch porn? There answer may suprise you, or it may not. Ask them to be open with you. Believe it or not, but husbands or men, can express their feelings. Trick is to let them know that they can and that they will be taken seriously. Seeing a man's vunerability is really something, and can bring a couple closer. What ever the reason, listen, and listen with an open mind. You may discover something about yourself. If you do, again, discuss it. Don't keep it to yourself, share it. Isnt' that what intimacy in any relationship is about?

If you seriously won't allow your husband to watch porn, then take a look at the reason's why, and again discuss them with your husband. Remember, if you don't allow it, they will find a way to do it when your not there so you may as well sit with them and see what exactly it is that they get out of it. You don't have to tell any one. In a marriage, I don't see anything wrong with sitting with your husband, candles lit, a bottle of wine or what ever you like, putting on a porn movie, and sitting and watching it. Heavan knows where it may lead!

I cannot stress how important it is to keep an open mind. Remember that with all the stress, worries and everything that comes in a marriage just in every day we all need outlets. I personally would rather have my husband at home watching porn with me, then him out with the fellows, in some bar, where anything could happen. At least if he's home with me, I know where he is, and who knows where it may lead. You may learn something ladies. So again I say, give it a go. Enjoy!

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