by Jonathan Clayton

Created on: September 11, 2008   Last Updated: September 25, 2008

Saving Your Marriage For The Children. Right or Wrong?

Having had first hand experience on this particular subject. I can say with total clarity, That it was the worse decision I ever made! The reasons are very simple. If you try to keep a relationship together strictly for your children, and there is no love at all between the parents. The outcome will probably not be the one you would have hoped for!

The children will inevitably see both you and your other half, at your very worst! Count on it! Because, no matter how hard you try to hide something from your children, they will always find out the truth! It's their nature. Most children are extremely intuitive to begin with. So, even though you may believe that your actions as well as your reactions are in line with a happy marriage. Your children will always know when something is not quite right in the household. Take it from me my friends, I learned this lesson in the worst possible way.

I won't even begin to try to go into specific's here. I would have to write a E-Book for that. Suffice it to say. Trying to live a normal life, when in fact your life is anything but normal, was one of the most monumental mistake's I ever made. It was also one of the toughest lesson's I've ever had to learn, throughout my entire life!

No matter whats going on. Always be truthful when it comes to your children. They know the difference! The stress alone thats created by such a situation, cause's horrible problems not only for yourself, but more importantly for the children! The psychological damage can be life-long, and in some cases, irrepairable! It is absolutely not worth the risk involved, in my opinion! My own children had to pay a very high price indeed, later on in their life's. Strictly Because of the terrible decision's their mother and I made, at that time in their life's!

On the other hand. Maybe some people can make this kind of situation work for them. I personally have never seen it work out the way they planned it. But I assume it may be possible. I truly just don't know how. I can only speak for myself in this matter. But this is a very tough subject to deal with, on any terms. When I tried to do this without seeking another opinion other than my own. It was a total disaster! Because of my immaturity at the time, I've been paying for that mistake ever since. If I had it to do over again, I would never have tried to live a lie.

Because of this huge mistake on our part's. It adversely affected everyone in the household. Especially the children. I can only hope and pray that the effects were not long-term!

In the closing of this article. I sincerely hope no other parent has to go through what I did.
In all truth, it taught me one of those extremely valuable life-lesson's, that I hope never to forget! Never try to live a lie. It will always come back to haunt you, or your Ex. More importantly, it will affect your children in one way or another, and that is exactly what you were trying to avoid in the first place.

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