by Virginia Gaces

Created on: September 11, 2008

We all have our bad habits. They may be considered insignificant to us but when it is done repeatedly to a partner, they can be annoying and can actually ruin your marriage.

These are the most common bad habits that could ruin your marriage:

1. Keeping secrets about finances

At times, we have the propensity to conveniently forget to inform our spouses of the extra clothing that we purchased. At times, it is not the money that really counts but the fact that you have concealed it from him. Your partner may forgive you the first time, but repeated infraction will lead to eventual mistrust and fall-out from each other.

2. Ignoring your sex life

The ultimate physical union of husband and wife is vital to a married life. It may not be the "all" but it is a basic component that consummates the marriage. That is why in most countries, the absence of a sexual relationship is considered as a valid ground for divorce. Never refuse your partner, unless there is a great big reason. "Being tired" is not one of those. In fact, allowing sex could relax you and soothe you afterwards.

3. Constant criticism and fault finding

We tend to expect much from our partners. Sometime we go into the marriage with smoke in our eyes. When we realize later that our partner has a human frailty too we get disappointed and start to criticize and find faults in all that he does. We should have that adult broadmindedness that

No one is perfect and that we have to tolerate each others' faults if we want to have a harmonious relationship with our partners. Instead of criticizing, you can initiate the change in yourself. If he observes the effort you try to put into the relationship, he too will take the lead. This is of course, not an overnight process, especially if you have never compromised. You should be persistent in this endeavor and you will succeed.

4. Confiding in relatives or other persons instead of your partner

This indicates lack of trust and confidence in your partner. He/she be the person you approach first when you're in trouble. A marriage without trust is a marriage without a soul. Who would want in?

5. Forgetting the simple, but important words

As we grow accustomed to our partner, we may forget to be polite to say the three sentences that are short but significant. First is the sentence: "I Love you." Couples take for granted that they have to say I love you as often as they can. Actions are vital - but words are wonderful. It assures the other person that you remain loving him/her preventing

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