by Olha Romaniuk

Created on: September 11, 2008

Some say that sex-only relationships always have disastrous endings. Sooner or later, one of the parties begins to develop feelings, connections that go deeper than mere physical urges of human bodies. Something begins to click and sex slowly becomes a means of passage to get the other person to spend more time, to care, to love. If the other party is not willing to reciprocate, if the feelings are not mutual, a relationship, tied together only with sex, inevitably, if not immediately, falls apart. The other party begins to pull away and distance themselves from the hints of an emotional commitment. And what happens to the person who becomes more attached than they should? They end up with a broken heart. Nothing more and nothing less than a broken heart.

The greatest danger of a strictly sexual relationship is that there are no contracts and no guarantees. Nothing, whatsoever, is written in stone, which means that neither of the people involved can tell weather or not they can keep their intimate activities at a purely sexual level. Unlike a cold-cut, business-minded person who can uphold their part of a contract because they are personally involved in maintaining a good standing with a client or a partner, emotions are hard to predict and not even the strongest-binding agreement can prevent someone from simply falling in love.

Sex can give a false sense of closeness to a person who is, otherwise, a perfect stranger. Whereas a true mental and emotional connection can take some time to achieve, a passionate physical yearning is instant. It is the first thing that makes us attracted to a stranger at a club, in a library, in a car at a red light. They may call it "love at first sight", but in reality, love cannot occur at an instant. Lust, on the other hand, is instant, powerful and overwhelming; but it is also fleeting and inconsistent. Lust is the basis for a strictly sexual relationship and, thus, such relationships are highly unstable.

The things about being friends with benefits is that, often, only one person ends up getting all the benefits. The person who wants to avoid being in a commitment is the one who is perfectly satisfied with never taking the step towards dating and becoming emotionally close to their partner. It is true that two people can be in the same spot, where they both feel that sex with no strings attached is all the commitment they really need. These situations are far and few in between, however, and sex-only relationships often end ugly,

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