by Dawn M. O'Neal

Created on: September 10, 2008   Last Updated: January 16, 2009

It happened again this weekend. He popped up on my radar screen...my cell phone screen that is, and I don't mean the man of my dreams. As I read the text, I was reminded why I LOVE BEING SINGLE!

Before I can share what he said, I have to give you a little background on my history with him. I tried my hand at internet dating a little over five years ago after the breakup of my marriage & that is where I met him. We dated for a period of about three months or so and I really grew to like the guy. He seemed like my type and for the most part we got along...except when it came to the relationship itself. You see, he had been in a previous relationship that didn't go so well and well, the baggage from that relationship was carried into our relationship and was the perfect excuse for why he couldn't this or couldn't that; among other things. We lived about an hour apart and in the time that we dated never once did he ever invite me to come to his town to see where he lived and his side of the world. That should have been first red flag number one...or wait, maybe the fact he hadn't gotten over his past relationship should've been.

Anyway....it didn't take long for me to figure out this relationship was going nowhere fast. He had never been married, no kids and still lived at home with good ole Mom & Dad. That might have been okay had he still been in his late teens or early 20's, but this guy was a 30 something, okay! Or at least that's what he told me. I had my concerns that maybe the reason why he never showed me where he lived was maybe because he was married or either embarrassed about where he lived. Who knows? Needless to say, his issues were enough for me to end the relationship. After some time had passed, we made the attempt to become friends. It's no mystery that most men & women can NOT be friends after a relationship has ended. Either they hate each other because of the wounds inflicted upon each of them, or they try their hand at being friends since the relationship didn't work out, which always somehow gives that underlying expectation or 'hope' that things will go back to the way they once were.

Back to present day. Such is my case with this guy. Yes...we've tried our hand at being friends and have even gotten together for dinner on a rare occasion since that time. But I always get the feeling that there's that underlying expectation thing going on. I've noticed that in the times past, if I give this guy even remote time of day, he's calling

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