by Jessica Dale-Walker

Created on: January 12, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

The most criticised person in a family is the stay at home mom. The house and errands need to be done and children cared for and fed. Laundry, dishes, sweep, mop, and pay the bills because somewhere in the madness the stay at home mom actually has the time to do everything that is on the agenda. And someone help her if she is feeling sick. Then despite how sick she continues to do what she can so that when that company comes over, although she'll be in bed, they won't think that she is lazy and a pig.

People always blame the stay at home mom when something has been over looked and they have no clue what it is like. People believe that stay home moms have all the time in the world and I would love to set some of that straight. As a stay at home mom, that isn't the way it works. The chore list does not count the spills per day that is cleaned the messes on the couches, the crayons on the walls. How many times have you ever heard a business woman say that she can't because she hasn't gotten anything done around the house. Well imagine if you will a business woman walking in to take your job. The hair and makeup would be gone i half an hour just trying to scrap that smushed on bubble gum off the floor.

I have heard that the husband shouldn't have to help if he works all day. I have heard that as a stay at home mom is two full-time jobs that run 24/7. That's right, no offence guys but more often than not you want to days of rest. What about those who stay at home to wash your work socks and make you supper? The woman who you promised the world too and have reduced her to cook clean and take care of the kids as a stereo typical sexist can't have a day off at all.

Stay at home moms need a vacation more than any person gives them credit for and it is time that people start seeing that if they sacrifice themselves that much for their family, maybe their families could start doing things for them. The most common thing to hear is that a stay at home mom is sick. Not because the children of the house has been sick but because she is run down.

What makes it hard is that stay at home moms are considered to be super powered. That they have tons of energy and that they can do everything in one day. That they don't get sick and that they still have enough time to relax, or the largest misconception that I have gone through that it is not nerve racking. What happens is that with all the stress of having a perfectly clean and organized house, happy children and a happy husband, there is no real time for the stay at home mom to rest and relax for herself.

The emotions that are attached to feeling down because you never do enough or you aren't perfect and you feel that you are not recognized as one person doing everything for one household it starts to get to you. Most stay at home moms suffer from different types of deppression because of this. That says alot for the unrecognized stay at home moms.

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