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that this may not be the likely scenario.

Another good question to ask your self is also "Will you be able to put this whole ordeal behind and bury it in the past?" It would not be fair to forgive and then bring this fact up at every fight. You have decided to forgive so you should must put an effort to keep away all the resentment. Forgiving comes with a certain dose of responsibility. Should the resentment interfere too much with the relationship then separating would be ultimately the best option.

Some people believe that cheating on the cheater can save a marriage. Unfortunately this is unlikely to happen. Not only are you doing to yourself an injustice because you are cheating against your will, but you may also find yourself suffering and thinking "I can't do this to my loved one, how the heck did he/she do this to me". The outcome therefore may be more harmful than beneficial. Yes, you may feel like you have scored even, but inside you may feel as hurt as before.

Saving a marriage after infidelity is tough. You ave a big job ahead. But nobody ever said it cannot be accomplished. If you have a strong will to stay with your loved one, and your loved one shows some commitment to refrain from repeating the offending act, then you have a chance. Some people take the chance and live up to it, others refrain from even giving it a try. It's all a personal choice. Should your heart say stay and your mind say go, consult with a marriage counselor, many times it takes an outside person to bring back an agreement between heart and mind..

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