by Jilliana

Created on: January 11, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

Keep your marraige fresh, there is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. Sometimes its 30/70 or even worse. But if you want it to work out, you will make sure BOTH parties are willing and desire for a good marraige. If both parties do not put forth an equal effort (the only thing equal) then the marraige is sure to die.
Don't fall into the misconception you can change the other person, dont even try. Both parties have GOT to WANT to change for each other and make each other happy and content, otherwise once again, the marraige is doomed.

Stay positive, communicate with one another, don't hold back feelings until they fester, always put your partners feelings above others. Think about yourself too, you want to be happy, dont let your partner bully you or dictate how things are. A marraige HAS to be "give and take", but it can't be all give, or all take.
Communication is the key word........keep it open at all times.
I was fortunate enough to find love again after a bad 28 year marraige. I tried and tried to make my marraige work, but my partner did nothing until the divorce. Then it was too little too late. Don't wait for extremes.
I am so happy now that I have found my true soul mate, someone who will communicate his feelings openly to me as I can to him. We have tons in common, and desire to make a contented life together.
Not everyone is as fortunate as myself to find a true love, work at your relationship do everything you can to make it work. Then if it still fails, at least you can say to yourself "I did everything I could to make it work". You will have no regrets.
Good luck in love

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