by Laura Leigh Fields

Created on: September 02, 2008

Sometimes, the question isn't how you should play hard to get. It is when to play it and why you should do it. Playing hard to get can often be a dangerous game and can cross a thin line to being a player. Be careful not to go to far or you could end up the loser in the game.

There are a variety of ways to play hard to get. The method you choose will vary on the situation and the person in general. It will also depend on your long-term goals and your ability to endure the situation rather than just accepting the date and moving on.

Many people enjoy the thrill of the chase. This is why playing hard to get is often fun for both parties involved. It is no fun to fish from a bucket. You know that you are guaranteed a catch. If you fish from a big open sea, you may eventually get something but you must be patient. The wait and the fight that the fish puts up make it all worthwhile. This is especially true when it comes to the dating world and playing hard to get.

If you are interested in playing hard to get you should first make sure that the person you are interested in doesn't have a short attention span. If they misconstrue your game of "hard to get" as being uninterested then the game is over and no one wins. The object of the game is for both of you to win, just not easily. Once you are sure that the person you like would do whatever it takes to get to you then you are ready to seem unobtainable.

Make them work for your phone number but when they receive it don't wait by the phone. If you do choose to answer when they call, let it ring a few times. Let them sweat a little. Make them wait for you. Better yet, opt for taking their number and calling at your convenience, not theirs.

They key to seeming hard to get is to be interested but not too available. Set your own rules and do things on your own time. Keep the person that peaks your interest guessing. Let being unpredictable be the only thing about you that is predictable. Stay a jump ahead of them and yet a step behind at the same time.

Leave things to the imagination. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. You shouldn't lie about things but you don't have to reveal every detail. Maintain an element of mystery and intrigue. Answer questions with short answers. If they want to know more, let them ask more questions. This opens the door to more conversation topics and better communication skills.

Stay independent. Don't seem needy. People who are hard to get will insist on paying their own way. They will keep things

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