by Lorelei Cohen

Created on: September 01, 2008   Last Updated: September 24, 2009

Appreciate a blind date for what it is, an evening out on the town with another person who is probably going to enter the room with just as many concerns about this blind date, as you have. Be realistic in your expectations about this person. Keep your hopes, dreams and imagination in check, don't let them get the better of you, and create an image of this person before you even meet him. Remember that you have never met this person before so there may not be a personal magnetism that automatically springs up between you when you do meet. You also don't know anything about this person other than what someone else has told you about him and that person's opinions may be much different than your own when it comes to deciding who you might consider to be a great date. So just keep your ideas, hopes and expectations in check, and take the time to get to know this person for who and what they are. Don't judge him based on what your friend thinks of him or by what you may want him to be!

If you don't keep your expectations in check, then as soon as you meet this person you may judge him in a negative light inaccurately, brand him a loser, and wind up not giving him much of a chance at all simply because he didn't measure up to what you were expecting him to be. Or the image that you have in your mind of a white picket fence with two small kids playing in the yard, and a little wood frame house where you and your dream man stand may find you falling crazy in love with the image that you have created in your mind. In which case the image that you are creating of your date may not be all that accurate a picture of the real person sitting before you. Let the evening play its course and judge this person on his own merits, not your preconceived image of what you expect him to be. Enjoy the evening for what it is, an evening out with a person who may, or may not turn into a future friend.

Blind dates are scary enough anyway so why add the extra stress of a lot of unnecessary future expectations. Don't think future marriage partner, don't even think future boyfriend, just enjoy meeting and getting to know this new person in your life. Prepare yourself to enjoy an evening out on the town. As the evening begins and as it continues just remember to appreciate the special qualities that your date is able to contribute to the evening.

Perhaps he will be a good conversationalist, have a great sense of humor, or be a great listener. Perhaps it will be his politeness or his empathy for those around him that stands out. Most people generally have some wonderful quality about them that makes them special to those that love them. Spend the evening trying to discover what quality it is about this person that makes them unique or special. Then relax, and just enjoy spending time with this new person. Enjoy the adventure of discovering who this new person really is. He does not have to be your future life partner, he does not even have to be someone that you will see again once this evening is over, but he is your blind date for the evening so appreciate his company for the evening.

Appreciate the blind date for what it is, an evening out on the town with another person who probably entered the room with just as many concerns about this blind date, as you did.

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