by Michelle Alexander

Created on: September 01, 2008

There is a reason that Sex and the City is one of the few programs that all females will agree to watch, and some will even watch religiously. It's really more than just the fashion, the double standard, and the fact evidently if you're a New York male and not rich and attractive you're shipped to Jersey. The reason that the show is so popular is that they some how managed to condense the complex female relationship psyche into four basic trains. All women are at times confused to the way they have acted in past relationships, and even in life in general. Women are a lot more complex than men. As the saying goes: if you can't figure out a man, you're trying to hard (pause for it to fully let it all sink in). One way to get a better hold on who we truly are is to understand how we behave in relationships.

Some women, myself included, approach relationships with the full optimism of a hopeless romantic. Women who fall into this category meet a guy, and upon the first connection they start envisioning how sweet this story is going to be to tell her kids one day. Yes, I met your daddy when he dropped a pile of papers and I helped him pick them up. She may even impose characteristics on this person to complete her fantasy, and is in love with the idea of love. These qualities carry into her day to day life as well, and by fully understanding the pros and cons of this, she can improve her life. She has to understand that all situations may not be as they seem, and that always expecting perfection is impossible. On the plus side, she can always see the bright side in a situation and wont give up rather it be in love or anything else that she truly wants.

Other women go the opposite direction. They are cynical, protective, and feel that if they fully let a man into their life they will become less of a women. In relationships she always has to be in control, and will never let that relationship get in the way of the life that she has created by herself. That life however can be damaged by being under the impression that she never needs anyone. Human beings can never handle everything on their own, and sometimes have to give in and let themselves be vulnerable. By understanding why they feel they have to behave this way in relationships, they can also understand that going though life without ever having faith in anyone will lead them to a very lonely life. On the flip side, they also don't need anyone else to define them, and are capable of creating a beautiful life

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