by maddie rose

Created on: September 01, 2008   Last Updated: September 15, 2008

What to do, when you share a life with a man in the Army

How to cope when your man is in the Army is the hardest thing a woman will ever do. She has to center herself around a life to keep her busy while he is away. He has no choice. He goes places, does things, he probably cannot discuss. If he does, it is usually Army 'lingo' of work, not always interesting as the man she loves. Be prepared, conversations of the Army, follow around abbrevations.

It is important to constantly remember, even if he is home, he could be called away, when the United States government thinks he should. These maybe short TDYs or longer-term deployments. Again, he has no control, anymore than he does his next assignment.

For that, he may ask for a place and go to the other side of the world. In the Army a woman who loves the man, must be flexible with life and willing to get out of her routine from time to time. She must come to the conclusion; she has to build her life as he moves from around the world, if following him is her desire.

She can keep a career, though there maybe times she learns to re-invent herself, as needed. She must learn she is the one who keeps things moving and happening when he is gone. And when is he gone, it is not a party. He misses her as much as she does him, if not ten times over.

Flexibility, loyalty and self-confidence will see a woman through the partner's Army career. She should rely on him as he does for her, but at the same time, happy enough to accept herself, when she is behind. It is always a temporary time, and life will be great when he is home and back again. Always keep it in mind; he would rather stay than go away. But the jobs of serving and defending our country will always are first for him.

She must not only just love him but also respect him for this. He is doing the toughest job that anyone can do. And he can do it better with her support, the support of a strong and independent woman, who can love her man, no matter where life takes them or what life throws at them. Independent women who can also be safe in her own skin, when he is away and secure in her emotions. It is not easy, and not for every woman, but if you love the man in the Army,
you learn to adapt to situations and to life, as he does, if you are serious about him. The Army becomes a part of you, whether you are enlisted or not. Remember, you love him and he loves you, life will get you through.

And it is a great adventure in love. And you will make plenty of romantic memories!

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