by maddie rose

Created on: September 01, 2008   Last Updated: September 15, 2008

How addiction to love can be unhealthy

How addiction to love can be unhealthy emotionally and physically. It is a scary, experience for one to have to live through. It is fine, it is natural for a person to love someone and spend as often as she/he can with the other person. (Assuming the other feels the same way, if not, this could be too obsessive.)

Depending entirely on what side the title is assuming, I will figure it could be a 'her' side. If so, she is the 'disturbed' partner of the relationship. I mention disturbed because I feel it is a temporary time of misplacement for someone, in hopes she will find herself again.

She may see her world as wrapped around his, and he may feel entirely smothered by this. He has a partner and a world of his own, he is a round soul. This is healthy, to be in love and have your own identity of yourself. To have the best of both worlds and to make the relationship work. But the idea is, to not loose yourself in the process.

However, if she has given up her own identity and looses herself to him completely, then she is not in the healthy state of mind. She will find herself doing chores, perhaps her being taking advantage of because of this. She will find herself double-checking on him, questioning, even following him to places around town.

She may go through his personal belongings and call him constantly at work. Too many call s at work would bring the problem to his boss; it could cost him his job. In addition, phone calls may be filtered by her or questioned every time he speaks to a girl, one she knows or not.
She will make accusationswhich are unfounded. This uncontrolable emotional state can lead to the end of a realtionship quickly.

Hopefully, she is not a woman who takes her revenge on a man physically, even to the point of personal destruction of property. She is totally out of control, if this happens. She has forgotten all boundries of living.

She needs help. She needs to realize, she has more in life than him. She needs more self-confidence in herself, so she would not become so needy on him. She would most appealing, as a woman who is self confident in life and in control of her feelings and thoughts. But more than that, she would be a happier soul, too.

Chances are, she was this person before, but she lost herself along the way. But in finding herself and building a center for just her, whether it is a, career, anything to fill her emptiness and to stay busy and happy, and she will see she is not dependent on the one she loves. She can love him freely and just because. He will respect her more.

Life is a brighter, better, more relaxed place, when it is looked through clearer eyes.

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