Players are not always easy to identify. For one, they can come off as the sweetest guy in the world. He can sweep you off your feet the moment you meet him and treat you like a queen. The problem is, there is more than one queen in his life. If you really want to see if a guy is not a player, watch how he operates. Keep your distance from any guy when you first meet him. Do not fall into any romantic lines or promises he makes. Players love to make promises and then break them. They have a little red book of excuses somewhere hidden.
Most players will not give you their phone number. They will always make sure they are the ones doing the calling. A married player especially falls into this category. Players can be identified by the way they look at other women, too. If you happen to notice, their eyes usually stray very easily when a good-looking woman or man comes in the room. There are women players, too, you know. Players come in all shapes, sizes, ages and professions.
Usually a player moves in on you real fast. He may even convince you that it was love at first sight. This is where you have to be careful when you meet some stranger. He might turn out to be more than just a player. Be sure you play hard to get so that you can keep your eyes on how he reacts. If he goes from you right to another woman then you can be pretty sure he is a player.
Players usually get a lot of phone calls. They usually have to think real hard if you plan something. They break a lot of dates unless they are gigolos. gigolos will wine and dine a woman of means until he drains her of everything. These are players, too. They never stay in a relationship for very long, or they have several going on at once. If you are observant, you will notice if a guy/girl is a player. It's those naive ones who get hurt by players. A player loves to prey on them. Love em' and leaven em'. Once a player gets what he came to get, which could be sex or money, they usually move on their way.
A lot of players, usually the married ones, will tell you they have to go out of town a lot with their job. A good way to find out is to call their job and ask for them. Players may or may not ask to meet you in places that are not in his neighborhood or his stomping grounds. This is because he already has one or two women in that zip code. He does not want to take the chance of the two of you running into one of his other queens.
Players who are good at it have all the right answers at their finger tips. They either stumbled over their answers if they are amateur players or they have all their answers right on the tip of the tongue. They even answer some questions before you finish asking them. And they will change the subject if you get too personal.
Most players do not spend a lot of money on you. This is either because they are married and do not have any or they have too many other queens or kings on the playing board. Players will usually try to get you in bed right away, too, unless they know you are not that kind of girl. Then, he will act like he respects you and gets you to fall in love with him. He will charm you right into bed with him. If you notice that he is hard to find after that, you know you got involved with a player and he kicked you off the board. Sometimes they will wean you off of them. They will keep breaking dates and not showing up until you finally wake up and smell the coffee.
There are some players who not just out for sex. They just like having more than one coal in the fire. They like bragging to their friends about all their conquests. Some of them may be bed partners, but others are just trophies. Players like to have their trophies on the shelf. They will also play with your heart more than once. You might be one of those queens he keeps on the sidelines. He only calls you when his other queens are busy or maybe they are players and he does not know it. That is the ironic thing about players. Players can be played, too. When a player falls in love, after hurting several queens or kings, they usually get hurt. It usually takes another player to capture a player. In the long run, what goes around comes around.