by Rachelle de Bretagne

Created on: September 01, 2008

The psychology of playing hard to get is a balancing act that takes the premise that people always want what they find hard to obtain. In relationships this is no different though you can get stung if the game is not played according to the rules. Play too hard to get, and you may just lose that chance in life that was an opportunity of a lifetime. Play your hand too quickly, and you may give the impression of being desperate. This article outlines the acceptable practice of playing hard to get bearing in mind the negativity gained by overplaying or underplaying your hand in the game.

*Polite distance.
*Independence.
*Impressions.
*Space.
*Individu ality.
*Mistakes in the hard to get game.

Polite distance.

There are rules of engagement when playing the game of love. Look around you at the mistakes friends make and usually these are made when they overstep the mark of polite distance. If a woman is too keen, what this does is scare away the potential date. It makes the woman look desperate. Similarly if a man is too easy to attract, mistakes are often made and misunderstandings arise, because without that polite distance, they come over as not only desperate but too accessible.

One of the mistakes people make is wearing their heart on their sleeve, being ready to accept any moves made towards them with open arms, and wearing your heart on your sleeve means that you have not recognized the reason why this polite distance matters. It is important since if you jump into a relationship too hastily, you open yourself up to being hurt, because you haven't experienced the person, and it's like buying a car without even knowing if it works.

Observe and keep your distance until you are more sure of your footing. It's an important lesson, and one which helps you, as a human being, advance in your ability to create solid relationships. On the surface people give certain impressions about themselves, though if you jump too soon, that initial impression may actually be as unwise as buying that car without even knowing if the key you put in the ignition actually makes the car start.

Independence.

In this day and age particularly, both women and men need to be independent. If you jump too quickly, you show that you have a dependence level which is unacceptable. Too many people jump into relationships without establishing respect. Let the person respect who you are above all else, as you are not going to become an extension of who they are.

The problem lies when you give signals that they

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