by Hanna Joseff

Created on: September 01, 2008

If you have always been an independent girl and suddenly wishes out of the blue to move back to your parents, then that's nothing to be ashamed of. I think no parents in their right mind would reject their precious children from moving in back with them. You would be surprised that they would be more than willing to welcome you back into their precious home.

Want to know why..? That's because parents are our night and day, and we have only 1 set of parents; all of us. Natural parents, that is and everyday parents are getting older by the day and they wouldn't want to see their children suffering. I think that deep inside, they would be secretly hoping that their children will be able to take care of them when they get old and sick etc. Therefore, this is not going to be a problem. You just have to ascertain certain aspects before moving in with them, and they are:

1. Making sure that you are not going to 'trouble' them

What do I mean by that..? I suppose financially you are independent and even if you are a declared bankrupt and wanting to move back to your parents' place, show your independence and the fact that you could face the world again. Use their place like a haven or some sort for you to recover and get back on track.

2. Help them and making them a part of your life

I have seen some people staying with their parents, moving back with them but they totally shut them out. That would be pretty devastating for parents, because they would really love to be a part of your life once more. Do not shun them out, rather, do communicate what's troubling you deep inside and why are making the move back with them.

3. Give them a time-line of how long you are going to stay with them

This is crucial, because they might want to know that, since they are the owners of their homes. Think the other way through. If you are a married person, and your parents come to your home one day out of the blue to stay, you might wonder deep inside how long they are going to be there, right..? It doesn't mean that they can't wait to get rid of you, but it's just a matter of courtesy and will put things into perspectives. In this way, things will be more easy to think through for them and they could continue their daily lives.

4. Retain your normal life, including your domestic independence

You wouldn't want to harbor on your parents domestic difficulties. Instead, be very independent and if possible, take over their domestic role where they are needing help in. Areas such as keeping the garden clean, going to the marketplace to get groceries and some stuffs. Make it easy and light for them, so they would think your living stint there feels like a breeze for them.

5. Your own priorities and mindset

Think of how long you are going to stay there; either temporary or permanent. And if you have given them a barely rough idea of that, think in the long run whether this is going to be a permanent stay for you or not. And if the fact of your homecoming has got something to dealing with ghost of a problem, then solve it without involving them. But do let them know your intentions and seek advice. After all, they are your parents and you are part of them.

I hope the above steps would be in handy for anyone at all in moving back to their parents. It's not bad after all, and you could spend time with them as much as possible. Parents are part of our lives, and we do not ever want to neglect them, because we do not know until when they would still be around and living. Take this as a reunion time kind of thing and enjoy the time as best as can be.

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