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Safety is the number one issue in dealing with domestic violence. There are lulls between acute episodes of domestic violence as a couple usually cycles through a pattern. Typically, after aggression has occurred there will be a period of reduced tension until things begin to escalate again. The mounting tension will eventually result in another episode of violence so it is important for the victim to plan for safety during these periods of reduced tension. It is easier to do so in these times because she can be more rational and less emotional. A safety plan made when emotion is low in the house is more effective than one made in crisis and panic.

Safety plans should be thorough and detailed. The victim should identify escape routes in her home. How will I get out if violence begins in this room or that room? Where will I go? Since domestic violence typically occurs behind closed doors and in the home, the victim should evaluate each room of her home and ask herself these questions. Can she get to an outside door? Is the door easily opened from the inside? If she needs keys to get outside can a set be hidden and accessible by the locked door? Can she easily open a window and climb through? Are there certain rooms that have no exits? If so, the victim should try to avoid these rooms at all costs when tension is building. A room with no exit is a room in which she can be trapped and seriously harmed.
Once outside the home where can she go immediately to seek shelter? A safe place to which she can run is important. A woman can prepare for safe haven by informing a trustworthy neighbor (or preferably, several neighbors) that she may need help and might come to their doors unannounced if in danger. Counting upon one neighbor can be dangerous unless that neighbor is always at home. Since this is unlikely, a plan that involves more than one neighbor is important. Being able to get from one safe haven door to the next quickly is also important. Preferably, the fleeing woman has only to go a short distance if the first door does not open to her. If there are businesses in the neighborhood these can be excellent safe havens. Convenience stores or restaurants that are open all night can provide immediate shelter. It is preferable, too, that the woman get acquainted with cashiers or other employees so that if she seeks shelter there they are likely to be cooperative. Informing the employees of her situation and the possible need to come for assistance is preferable. She

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