The dating game is every bit as logical as a game of chess, though the difference lies in what a player has to lose. With chess, the only loss is intellectual, though in a relationship, the loss is much greater and delves into the emotional. To overcome the possibility of loss, just as in chess, one needs to understand and identify the players that make the game work, and these are related to as players. This article attempts to explain how the identification process helps to make successful relationships and avoid stale mate situations.
*The Pawns.
*The Knights.
*The Bishops.
*The Rooks.
*The Kings and Queens.
The Pawns in the game.
Pawns on a chessboard go forward. They know their territory and defend it. In the dating game, the pawns are those run of the mill people who chat you up in the hope that perhaps they can initially form a friendship. Pawns could include the boy or girl next door, and those you meet in college or in the workplace. The sad thing is that pawns don't excel in looks, don't seem to be noticed, though there they are, the obvious good choice, though because young people want excitement, these are the players in the game who tend to not get the recognition they merit. Mister or Miss average are the pawns, going forward through life with the occasional battles won though who lose easily against the more competitive players.
The Knights.
The knight in shining armor is that guy that stands out from the crowd, or the girl who looks stunningly beautiful and either can give you the eye. Think about the logic of the situation, as in real life, if things look too good they probably are. The knight on a chess board is able to move not only forward but at angles too, and these are the ones to be wary of. They know all the angles and play with expertise, though often their expertise means that they probably already have a partner, and are trying to gain a little bit of freedom at your expense. The knight also knows how to manipulate and to use your vulnerabilities to gain status.
Knights don't ride up and sweep you off your feet as stories lead us to believe. They promise you the world and deliver very little. You recognized them for their outstanding looks, charming personality and the initial impression, though it is those qualities which keep them from becoming a serious possibility as a potential date. The danger of dating in these circumstances is that you are likely to be bowled over by them, and before realizing their game, become hurt in the process.
The bishops.
In a game of chess the bishops move diagonally. The players in the dating game that move in this style would be those who approach you on the dance floor and want to take you home. These are the potential dates that move in on you when you least expect it. They are clever and know which direction they are going in, though can leave you as fast as they found you. Recognize the chat up lines. These players will have plenty of them though they will have used them often, in an attempt to score points with the opposite sex.
The Rooks.
These guys are sneaky. They can be there one moment and gone the next. They are moody and want their own way, and rarely change to suit their potential date. These players will want to have their cake and eat it. Watch out for these because they are ripe for making a relationship go too far too quickly, though are every bit as capable of backing off in a hurry when things go wrong, as they are to hone in on the vulnerable.
These are the girls who want to commit you and trap you into instant commitment, or the men who want the dating game as a means of scoring points. Both have their motives and have not yet learned the subtlety of being in a relationship, hence their designs on something they do not yet have a conception of.
The Kings and Queens.
These are real treasures, the ladies and gentlemen of the game. They are rare. They treat you with respect from the first moment you meet them. They respect others and know how to behave towards them. The Kings and Queens are so rare that we all seek them, though often fail to find them. These are sincere people whose approach is conservative and who are looking for long term commitment with an honest heart, taking things slowly and surely and never demanding that a relationship move too fast in a forward direction, since what matters is surviving to the finish, rather than hurting someone by being too forward.
Dating is hit and miss. Sometimes the players are those people surrounding you that are just waiting for you to make that move. Shy of being the initiator, perhaps that pawn is the girl or boy you dream about though has not yet been given the chance to show you. Taking relationships slowly works well. Friends get to know each other before making emotional mistakes that lead to scarring on the inside, and slow is a good way to be, especially if you find yourself alone and keen to be with someone.
By mixing with the pawns, you never know, they may actually reach the other side of the board and become that King or Queen you were looking for, though until you give them a chance to shine, you may never know the potential of a relationship with these passive but reliable players. Life is a game, and we are all players, though the untouchable ones are those who seek short term fun. Just like chess, the game of dating takes time for quality play.