by Laura Leigh Fields

Created on: January 10, 2007   Last Updated: April 23, 2007

I recently got back in contact with my son whom I had not seen in almost four years. He is now nine years old and so many things have changed. I am grateful to be back in his life but a learning process for us all.
My husband has never been around children much, and of course has none of his own. He had also not met my son until we reunited. He tries, bless his heart, and that's good enough. Not every man is willing to step up to the plate and be a dad..or at least be there.

Take it slow. Do not expect everything to happen over night. Bonds are formed through trust and expierience. People who rush things tend to only hurt themslves.
Be willing to learn from the child, Right now, my husband and I are learning Pokemon battling..just when I thought I had seen it all. Children want to feel like someone is listening to them, too.
Teach the child things, show them things you like. Throw a ball, go fishing, catch a frisbee, or just take a ride. The time spent together is a memory within itself.
Let the mother continue to handle the discipline at first. If you come into the relationship fussing at the child, they may see you as the mad guy. Earn their respect through love, and affection not anger and violence.
Just be yourself. Treat others the way you would want to be treated, keep an open mind, a good sense of humor, and a bottle of tylenol on hand, and everything will turn out just fine.

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