Long distance relationships are both challenging and rewarding at the same time. I was in a long distance relationship with my significant other for three years. We encountered our ups and downs along the way but in the end we made it.
When a couple is in a long distance relationship they have to be committed and steadfast. There are lots of obstacles placed along the way and if the both of you are not committed to the bigger picture then in the end your relationship will likely fail. Now you may ask, "What is the bigger picture?" For everyone the answer to that question is different, but for me it is lifelong happiness with the one you truly love.
There are some simple but often overlooked tidbits of information that are crucial to the survival of a long distance relationship. One of the most important things is to keep a line of communication open. Communication plays an important role in stamping out problems and concerns before they get out of hand. I recommend that you call your partner once a day or as often as possible. Human nature tends to make people think that someone is up to no good if they have not heard from someone for an extended period of time.
Honesty is highly overrated in a long distance relationship. I know this goes against everything that you have learned through the years, but honesty can destroy a relationship. You are already in a long distance relationship and your partner will from time to time suspect you are committing some type of infidelity. Often times in long distance relationship infidelities are committed because of carnal needs and desires. If you own up to a moment of weakness and are honest you are almost guaranteed that your relationship is over. If being honest is going to lead to the termination of the relationship with the person you truly love, then just keep mum. This is not a license to go out and sow your oats with every Tom, Dick, and Jane but if you happen to succumb to temptation at a vulnerable moment; keep it to yourself. Reassure your partner that they are the center of your universe.
Don't be afraid to engage in risque phone talk. Though you can't physically touch the one you are with, through some intimate phone talk and imagination; sparks can fly. During your phone conversations give one another pleasure as if you were in the same bedroom. Talk about the last time when the two of you made mind blowing love. Close your eyes and let you mind take you places you have been or wish to go and share that with your partner. Your mind is the best tool you have, use it!
Never underestimate the importance of gifts that include those little I love you notes. Gifts and cards let your partner know that you are thinking about them and have taken time out of your day to express your love and gratitude. The gifts don't have to be fancy or over the top, but little mementos that express your dedication and devotion goes a long way in putting the mind of your partner at ease. Always include a hand written note, even if you send a card. I know in the digital age pen and paper are thing of the past but there is nothing more endearing than an I Love You written on paper.
Have faith. Faith keeps hopes and dreams alive longer than anything in this world. Have faith in knowing you and your partner will make it no matter how tough the road gets along the way. I know the saying, "Faith moves mountain" is over used, but it is often underutilized. If you have faith and visualize a life of love and happiness, thousands of miles are reduced to a couple of feet.
If you use these little pieces of information I presented to you as building blocks there is no doubt that your relationship will withstand turbulence and heartache. There has to be dedication and commitment from both sides and if you add a little a spice, mix in some faith, and visualize the end game; the time and distance that separate you from the one you love will grow shorter by the day. Today, I am married to the person with whom I had a long distance relationship and it has trained us to believe that no matter how bumpy the road may get, there is nothing that we can't overcome.