by Chelsea Haley

Created on: August 27, 2008

Listen up-before you even think about getting into a relationship, think about exactly what you want out of that companionship! Set yourself standards for your desired partner (try to be realistic though), and then trust those morals or feelings of yours. I will tell you from personal experience that if you trust and believe your feelings and intuitions, then your partner will in turn trust you and think you more genuine.

If you were to see my history on relationships, you would see that none of them lasted very long, except for my present one. However, you would also see that, although the past relationships never lasted, I am happier than I have ever been with a guy. And, I give all the credit to listening to my intuitions and never doubting myself.

First, if you don't feel any connection with someone, allow yourself about three days to get to know that person; don't just reject him or her before even giving them a chance. For example, a guy, who I thought was totally disinterested in me asked me out in my junior year of high school. The reason I thought he didn't like me was because he completely ignored me the day we met. But, two days later he was calling me to hang out, and then sending me roses and poems to ask me out. As much as I tried to feel something for him, I just didn't. So, after allowing him a chance and trying to get to know him over the following two days, I broke it off. If after three days you still don't feel any chemistry, move on. There is no point in leading him or her on if you don't feel it going any further.

However, if you get that rolled up knot in your stomach after being with someone only the first day, go with that feeling, and end it. If that person gives a a bad gut feeling, then you may not be safe or happy with that person later on.

Second, if someone is ever trying to push you to go against your beliefs or feelings, get out NOW! If someone truly cares about you, then he or she would respect your feelings even if he or she doesn't agree with them. I cannot express this enough! I had two experiences with this, but I'll give you the most recent example. I was into my second semester in college, and the guy who had liked in high school, emailed me to see how I was doing. It was quite a surprise since I hadn't seen or even talked to him for the past eight months. After we emailed each other back and forth for about two days, he called me to meet and catch up. We met at starbucks and everything went so smoothly; we ended up staying

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