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My wife and I experienced a long-distance relationship when I was in California and she was in Boston. We both moved to Los Angeles so I could pursue my filmmaking career, but she had to give up her job as a manager at Lord & Taylor, the high-end department store. It was exciting to be moving across the country and we had a ton of fun driving across the U.S. But then the reality set in...

She was promised an equal position in L.A., but it never happened due to miss-communication. Meanwhile, as a freelance film/video producer we didn't have the steady income we had back East. She did manage to work within her old company, but it was far from what she left and it came with a huge paycut. After a few months, her old boss called her and offered her a positon that she had a tough time turning down. I was devastated, but I also knew the reality of the situation. So we decided to have a coast to coast marriage. Boy, it wasn't easy!

She took her new position back in the Boston area, and decided to fly out every couple of months to see me. My work was taking me overseas sporadically, and I would get back to Boston to visit her when I could. This went on for three years.

We both never had a problem with honesty in our relationship, and we never thought about cheating or seeing someone else. Well, naturally thoughts do cross your mind, but we never acted on it, and for that I am gratefull. We both learned alot from this experience, and I believe it has made our marriage stronger. We have been married for 21 years, and we have had a ton of ups and downs like any other relationship.

Loneliness was a big issue for both of us. When we had time off, it was quite difficult not to think of your partner. I knew I had to keep busy as much as possible, so between jobs I pursued a poker playing career. She kept busy by working alot of overtime and she was temporarily staying with her parents, so at least she had company.

Three years is a lot of time, and we both couldn't wait until we saw each other. I remember counting the days until I had to go the airport to pick her up, and then trying not to think of how many days she had left before I would have to take her back.

One of us would have to give up their pursuit, and I knew it would have to be me. My freelancing was just what it was, sporadic. She had steady work with a steady income and I knew I would have to go back or lose my marriage. When you love someone, you want to be with them as much as possible. In our case, a few

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