by Anna Hasty

Created on: August 27, 2008   Last Updated: March 26, 2011

Yes, marriage is really worth it. Marriage requires work just like anything else in life. People forget that the best things in life take work. If a person wants their dream job, they are willing to take whatever steps are neccessary. We go to school for years, study, sacrifice and pray to reach our goals, why should marriage be any different?

One of the reasons people don't think marriage is worth the effort is because it is a constant job. There is no vacation, sick days or paid leave. Marriage is something that has to be faced no matter the crisis or the demands on our lives. Many people forget that after they say," I Do", the real work begins. Marrage is the blending of two seperate lives and views. It take time and effort to find the middle ground. In todays society it is too easy to say," I changed my mind", and get a so-called normal divorce.

I speak from experience. My first marriage failed because my ex-husband decided he wanted a different life and I no longer fit the bill. The most painful experience of my life was when I had to walk away. He no longer wanted to work at the marrage and it was simpler for him if he just asked me to leave. It takes two to make it work but sometimes only one to make it fail.

You would think that with my past experience I would not have a positive outlook on marriage but, marriage did not fail us, we failed it. I have since remarried. This time I am painfully aware of how much work it is going to be. There are times when my husband and I don't get along. We are two seperate people, we have our own thoughts and feelings. That is one of the keys to marriage, you have to accept that your spouse is not always going to see things your way. I am proud to say that I am upto the challenge.

Marriage is about compromise and how effectly a couple can use that concept. I love being married. My husband is worth all the the challenges and compromise. I have been given a blessing. I have someone who is always there even at 3:00 a.m. in the morning, even when I am at my worst he loves me. I can depend on him no matter what I have done and he on me. We get to share inside jokes, have a home, share dreams and always have someone to rub your back or give a helping hand when I am not strong enough to get though the tough times.

So, when people ask is marrage worth it ? The answer is a resounding YES! I will never regret the work I put into my marrage because the rewards overshadow the effort everyday.

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