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When it comes to giving children decisions to make, take it with a grain of salt. If they took a little longer to learn how to tie their shoes, wait awhile before you inquire what career goals they might have set for themselves. From the horse's mouth let me say, sometimes it's not that we don't have an answer, their lack of response can be a reluctance due to rebellion, or sometimes a lack of confidence in a young deciders head.

Let them grow up at their own pace and start with easy things, things of necessity, choosing what to have for dinner for example. Than back it up with a lesson in participation, so that a strong correlation develops between real decisions and their consequences, he will learn that there is real work is involved even in a simple task like preparing dinner. An active approach also provides bonding and interactive problem solving, while at the same time identifies any potential problem areas in need of improvement.

Einstein developed slowly compared to his peers, and then flew past them at the speed of light just a few years down the road. I'm not ashamed to admit, I'm a long way from Einstein, but the same rules of logic and development apply, sometimes it takes us geniuses a little longer to fully develop to our own unique potential. If someone may appear slow on the surface they may be taking a little longer time thinking the situation through.

Simply put if they're not ready for major league decisions then just give them responsibilities they can handle, and don't give them anymore! Overwhelming a youngster, frequently, without support may have a detrimental effect, and cause a downright shut down by the child toward taking on any responsibility at all. It's important to both monitor and balance your decisions so that you get the positive effect out of good decision making.

And if they show signs of maturity, keep feeding them responsibility. It builds a good work ethic, character, and promotes a, hands on attitude, ensuring the job gets done. This world requires more and more decisions as society takes on bigger and more complicated tasks.

Don't forget, if they take on a lot of responsibility and find they have bit off more than they can chew, step in and give them a hand; after all they are only children. Little representatives of you! Remember what it was like for you, way back then. Today's kids are just trying to live up to a world much larger than most of us can ever fully imagine.

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