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Have you ever found yourself making decisions or taking actions based on someone else's well being only to make that person and yourself miserable? Have you ever found your own right path and felt discouraged under the lash of someone else's criticism and judgment? Has the fear of making a mistake prevented you from taking any action at all?

I know how you feel. Let me share my recent experience in the hopes that you'll feel better and know that you are not alone.

Twice in the past year, I have taken actions based on selfish, codependent motives. Both times those actions did not produce the desired results and for all intents and purposes looked like 'mistakes'.

In April of this year, I paid over a thousand dollars for training in Lypossage, a massage therapy technique for body contouring. My intentions were to contribute in a big way to our household income by cashing in on women's obsession with their body image. Four months later, I have not had the first Lypossage client.

For the past year or so, my husband and I have been discussing having weddings at our farm. Again our intention was to increase our income as well as providing a beautiful site for weddings and receptions. To use our farm as a wedding/reception site, I had to get a zoning permit. The hearing for that permit was a few days ago. It was denied. It looked like I had made another 'mistake'.

I've never been willing to labels those actions of Lypossage training and wedding permits as mistakes. I know the value of my actions are not always reaching my desired goal. Sometimes the value of my actions is simply practicing the courage of action taking and learning from the consequences.

Now, I am enrolled in Life Coach Training at the International Coaching Academy. Recent history would say this is another one of my hair brained ideas. Today I learned that I am ABSOLUTELY ON THE RIGHT PATH.

My husband has been skeptical about "throwing money away" on another one of my ideas with nothing to show for it. His concerns were honest, his delivery was less than sensitive. Today I heard my own truth come out of my own mouth as I was expressing myself to my husband.

For months I have been praying, asking the Universe "What's in my hand? What are my gifts? What am I supposed to do?" My asking was no longer about increasing my income or making my husband happy. My asking was about, "What is my higher purpose in life?" I knew that when that answer came, a life of joy is all that would await me.

So I started asking my

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