by Kent Kruse

Created on: August 24, 2008

For starters just make them stop. take it away. You are the parent. Lets stop with all the psychology and start being parents. If you think that they are talking on the phone to much then just make them stop. Give them more to do around the house. I'm sure there must be work to do. You do a lot of work. What do they do?

If you are really having this problem then the problem is not with them it is with you as a parent. Take control. Make them listen. This is just a phone we are talking about is it not. They will respect you less in the end if you don't set limits to things like telephones, computers, and music.

If you really want them to have there freedom then make them earn the phone. Tell them that they can talk on the phone more but they will need to pay for there own phone and make them really do it. If you give in then you are just adding to the problem and you will never have there respect.

I am not telling you to be mean to them. I am telling you to be there parent and to take charge of your home. If you are not in control then they are. Kids are not mature enough to be in control. The phone is not a necessity like food.

If you make them pay for there own phone then if they have all there household choirs done let them use it. Don't fall into the, "I pay for it. I can use it whenever I want routine". You can still set limits all you want.

Just because you are in control of what they do does not mean you are being unfair. You will thank yourself in the long run. I am sure that when you were a child your parents probably did not have to read an article like this one did they. Make your children learn respect. They will listen to more of what you have to say and when they have children of there own they will have there own problems to deal with and they will thank you for what you taught them.

Parents these days just don't seem to understand that they are the ones in control and not the children. Every little thing that you let the kids get away with is going to cause greater and greater problems in the long run. Love your children the right way. Don't give in to everything all the time. Sure there are times when giving in is a plus but not all the time. Make rules and stick to those rules. If a child earns something them make sure to honor the agreement but don't just give in to what they want all the time. They are just kids and they need to be taught.

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